Or are you hoping to find a romantic partner when you talk to people online? Are you trying to flirt online with the hopes that it develops into something more? Do you expect the friendship to continue and to meet people outside of the chat room, in the real world? All of these parameters will help you choose the best app to meet new people and talk to strangers online. For many people who are looking for a romantic relationship online, different apps cater to different tastes. You can also ask your friends for their own experiences and reviews of the free chat apps and dating apps that they use.
In fact, chat rooms and social media are great places to discuss your ideas and feelings with new people. It can be a great way to make new friends online who have the same interests as you. While you can talk to random strangers anywhere, the internet has a whole host of free random chat rooms.
Basically, you sign up for the random chat service, and you get paired with another user. Then, you are free to random chat talk about whatever you want. The best online chat will be different for different people. This online chat environment is a wonderful way to meet people who have similar interests to you. This way, you can meet people online who are also looking for some romantic involvement.
Depending on your interest, you can try anonymous chat rooms that will protect your identity while still allowing you to chat with people from all over the world. While there are few free chat apps that offer a completely anonymous chat, the ones that do are often associated with less-than-legitimate operations. Never give out personal information or agree to meet anyone. There are a lot of different reasons why a person might turn to a chat room or free chat app to talk to strangers online.
Or, they may be in a transitional time in their life and they want to surround themselves with new people. So, they use a chat room or free chat app to meet new people online before bringing those friendships into the real world. Whatever the reason, using a chat room or free chat app is a popular way for people to make new friends these days. Updated October 22, Medically Reviewed By: Laura Angers Though the first online chat options came about in the s, the first chatrooms that resemble the version of online chat we know today first popped up in the s.
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I was jokingly following your invitation to be harsh, and you did manage to remind me that the punchlines of old Garfield comics are still lurking in my brain. All I meant to communicate is that while I can sympathize with your desire to make friendly, spontaneous contact with a stranger, you don't really want to be Jon Arbuckle, do you? I guess it's easy for things to be misconstrued when you're communicating with someone you don't know via short messages in a text-only medium.
Say something funny but nice. Ask if she is interested in seeing a photo of you and if she is, oblige make it funny though!
I've done this before, not to meet up with the stranger, but just to have a laugh and it always ends up nicely : posted by darkgroove at PM on November 15, Anyway, this is another voice echoing hell no. Creepy as hell. Please don't do this.
As stated previously, you need to understand that women have to worry about their safety on a daily basis in a way that most men do not. A photo? I hope that's a troll. That's horrible advice. And the friends of those friends are going to hear all about it too. You say you are socially awkward--try to develop some empathy. Social inter action involves human beings--yourself and at least one other person. No one wants to be poked and prodded to see how they react.
I bet you don't--even if you like to pretend to yourself that you do. I think it's too harsh to call you a psycho or stalker at this point. You'd be a psycho or stalker if you didn't stop to think, "wait, is this a psycho thing to do? I'd better run this past MeFi". Or, you know, if you actually did it. I can see how this is well meant, and all, but she has your number and can just as easily contact you if she feels like it.
Then you'll be in a romantic comedy. Or a slasher film, depending. Some of us are psychos too, you know muahaha muahahahaha.
Data point: As a woman who has been stalked, this would freak me out pretty badly. I would immediately know you were doing it because I was a woman which means I would know you had fantasized or at least had a passing thought about me sexually , I would feel ashamed and embarassed, and I would immediately delete the text, block the number, and tell people about how much it freaked me out.
I'd feel bad for a day or two. Trust me, there is no way to appear innocent while doing this. Sucks, but there you are. Stick to meeting women at clubs, online dating sites, or by being introduced through mutual friends imo. Go ahead and read them both instead of texting that woman. This is a random person you know nothing about who has shown no interest in you who you want to talk to because it "might lead to a new acquaintance, if not friendship or even something more.
If you want to seize the day and meet new people and take the chances that a random interaction might lead to something great, why not just try to talk to some other random person in a less creepy way?
With a better approach and a chance to pick the person based even just a little bit on who she is , it'd be a lot more likely to lead to "a new acquaintance, if not friendship or even something more" especially given your hypothesis that this woman was about to go on a first date she was really excited about with the bonus of being less likely to make someone feel uncomfortable.
You've done too much stalking and thought about it too much. This makes it NOT fun and spontaneous like it was supposed to be, but premeditated and weird.
I think this could've been pulled off by someone who was more whimsical, but you don't seem to be that person, sorry. All this stalking and thinking about it isn't good for you, and certainly isn't good for her.
Response by poster: Wow, I know I asked for it, but my god you people are harsh! I don't care much about whether some stranger were to consider me a weirdo or whatever, but I don't want to put anyone in a place where they are scared or worried.
I suppose I didn't quite appreciate how much damage a single, friendly message could potentially do seriously, it would have been really harmless and ignorable. That being said, I want to question some points made, fill in some blanks and say a few things in my defense.
I've tried to be honest with myself, but some of the following may very well be knee-jerks and defensive arguments so once again, feel free to call me out on it. It's not like I would be putting a gun to hear head.
I don't want to be intrusive, but some people don't mind sharing. The way I see it, I would be giving her an opening to do just that, and it would be up to her to decide what to do with it. I don't have problems meeting people anymore.
That doesn't mean that I automatically let opportunities slide without consideration just because they're unorthodox. I just needed some confirmation that it was indeed intrusive etc.
I thought I made that clear in the post. The thought merely crossed my mind and I didn't outright dismiss it because similar long-shots have happened before minus the creepy part. I don't see the crime in recognizing one of many possible outcomes. I would be going in expecting nothing more than a quick back and forth, if anything. I don't mean poking to the point of annoyance just for my own amusement.
I mean more along the lines of doing something unexpected and seeing how it unfolds. Really, I'm not an asshole, ask anyone. In fact, historically I have always erred on the side of being way to cautious and careful not to put anyone in even the slightest uncomfortable position.
Now I'm warming up to the idea of letting people speak for themselves, instead of me assuming the worst. Oh, but it would have been a whim if it were possible to do it when it occurred to me.
If I could have done it when I first thought about it, then the message would be on its way in the space of 30 seconds, but I couldn't very well do that until afterwards, now could I? It's an interesting problem, and since I couldn't quite make up my mind I came here for input. Live and learn. Thank you, this is pretty much what I needed to hear. I don't think I was quite conscious about how bad it could affect her. Thank you for letting me know : ". Otherwise the though of messaging her back wouldn't even have crossed my mind.
Well, duh! Yeah, because I didn't know for sure if it really was as bad as I was making it out to be. Like I mentioned above, I have often been way to sensitive about things like these, so I needed a second opinion. I have to disagree. Just because I realize something might be weird doesn't make me predatory just for considering it.
I'm not saying I wasn't being predatory; I'm just saying that weird doesn't imply predatory. I don't mind being prone to acting a little weirdly. To this and those of its ilk: I'm really not seeing this. I have missed phone calls from unknown numbers before, and in several cases they have proven to be from someone I knew, for instance clients. I don't see what's so bad about looking up a number. Of course, I didn't expect to know this person, but I was curious.
So what? Maybe you are justified in thinking I'm desperate or lonely for doing it, but a stalker? I would have left the exact "Oh it was great : " well alone. As I said above, I botched the wording on this point. I'm talking about doing things or saying something that might catch someone off-guard or challenge them in some way. Not to the extent that I'm being mean or annoying. I do care a lot about the feelings of others, really, but this seemed pretty harmless in that regard.
Even if I'm creepy, to think that a single frivolous message can cause so much distress is, truly, kind of sad. Sure, if she has a history, then I get it. What are the chances of that though? Curse my curiosity and tendency to get caught up analyzing the world to bits and pieces before jumping in.
Why not? Do I strike you as dishonest? Not really a newsflash, buddy. This isn't about doing what people expect. This is about doing something they don't expect because, you know, surprises can be fun and all.
The question at hand was whether the creepy factor outweighed the surprise factor, or if it was all in my head. I already covered this, but I will reiterate since it keeps coming up. I wasn't expecting more than a message or at most a "few jokey texts". I wasn't envisioning her being my soul mate. I wasn't obsessing about her. This wasn't about life in the movies, making a friend, or girlfriends.
This was all about keeping true to following first impulses and taking risks. I couldn't do anything about it there and then, so I had time to reflect on it. My gut was telling me "no", but the outcomes of taking other risks were yelling "yes". It seems only natural to me to think about it, but then I enjoy exploring problems and questions.
I mean, look at me; I already decided not to text her before starting this reply, yet here I am, still working through all these opinions and developing my own understanding of the various issues. These were my first thoughts, but I concede since there's a very real chance that she'd be seriously bothered.
The only reason I found out that she lived in my city was because it popped up along with her name when I looked up her number in the phone directory not google, mind you. I wasn't looking for the address. I didn't even read her full address. And no, I haven't developed any sort of fantasy about her. I haven't even really thought about her at all. I've been occupied with the creepy versus fun dilemma, because that's the interesting and stimulating part of all this.
I certainly don't feel entitled to anything. It sure could be fun if she gave me a tiny bit of time, but I can't say I feel entitled to it. I'd love to hear what I said to make you think that I do.
Not quite. I realized quickly that this was probably in regards to some date, so yeah, the thought of her as a romantic prospect crossed my mind. I guess that passing thought made me think twice about her before forgetting and getting on with my evening. I got a little curious as to how it would work out for her, especially knowing it would be going down right here. I figured it might be fun for her to let me know how it went since she nearly screwed up her Sunday evening and quite possibly the date by using the wrong number.
Her being an astronomically far flung romantic prospect made the idea engaging enough to consider action, but it wasn't the primary driver. Looking up numbers in the phone book would be approaching truly random people. But she and I are not truly random. I'm the guy she messaged by mistake, who then informed her that she got the wrong number. I know I know, it's nothing and I am Oh, this reminds me.
Someone mentioned that she is not thinking about me or something like that. I know that. That's why it could be fun to message her back. I don't use it as a free pass. If I did then I wouldn't have worried about this maybe being a bad idea.
I thank you for pointing it out though, because I may not have been fully conscious about it. I mentioned those aspects of my personality mostly for color and backdrop for my current approach to these parts of life. I honestly wasn't sure if she would be creeped out and scared or if it was just me exaggerating the vulnerability of people. I wouldn't knowingly do anything creepy or scary despite what my inaccurate mention of poking and prodding might have you believe.
I'll gather up what's left of my self-respect and cling to this explanation, thank you. That goes for any stranger we meet, doesn't it? Even people we know by reputation or meet through friends can turn out to be unhinged given the right circumstances. I, for one, won't live in fear of that, but I sympathize with women having to always watch out for that. Thank you. Good advice to live by. Part of the confusion may have come from it not feeling creepy when the thought first occurred to me, but as I thought about it some more since I couldn't actually do there and then then it became creepy.
So there was a conflict between the spontaneous "hey, that would be fun! If I had thought about him and his situation twice before forgetting, then yeah I would actually have considered doing it. The difference is that I did think twice about it in this case because hey, I'm a guy; I'm more inclined to think about women than men please don't confuse "thinking" with "obsessing". I already commented on this viewpoint, but it seems to strike a nerve every time I read it.
Maybe I'm a bit lonely. I sure used to be, though it took a long time to realize it. But I really don't feel lonely any more. I have enough friends and romantic relationships to keep me happy for the time being. I'm quite content with the way things are were they are headed. Sure, I'm still looking to expand my social circles and add new ones, but I don't need random names from the phone book to do so.
On the other hand I don't want to miss out on possibly fun experiences or chance encounters just because they are not by the book. Actually, let me rephrase that: I don't want to miss out on possibly fun experiences and chance encounters, especially not if they are not by the book. So far this has served me well, though maybe I nearly took it too far this time. Ah, here it is, the point about her not thinking of me.
I don't assume I'm on her radar at all; I know I'm not. That's what would -- err, I mean might -- make it fun to do. Because it would be totally unexpected. So you're saying it would have been fine if I had kept it simple, e. Or even better, if I had gone ahead without bringing it up here at all?
How would that change anything? Posting here is a consequence of reflecting on the situation and not wanting to scare or creep her out. You're basically saying I'm creepy by the mere act of being conscious and trying to not creep someone out. I sort of saw the negativity coming, but the sheer magnitude of it was impressive. I'm not completely oblivious to the plight of women, but I didn't realize that the problem was this common and massive.
I have of course decided not to go ahead with this. I appreciate that there were a few -- even women -- who thought it would have been fine, and some more who thought it could have been fine if done in the moment. You provided some much needed pick-me-ups while processing this : This also goes for those who shared their stories even though there were some key differences, as others were quick to point out.
I will get around to reading the recommended threads. Some of them had already been on my to-read list for a while. That's the kind of data I love reading even though it sometimes forces me through an uncomfortable change of perceptions.
Oh, and hey, I learned a new word: skeeved Alright, wrapping up. Thanks to every single one of you who replied. Thank you for your brutal honesty.
I read every comment at least once, most twice, and some three or four times. I dare say every single one made an impact one way or the other. Pat yourselves on your backs. One day, Sandstrom, who had always considered herself an introvert, realized that she always looked down when she walked along the street. So she started holding eye contact with people and found that it actually felt pretty good.
Before long, she was talking with strangers too. She was surprised at how easy and fun it was. Once, on the subway, she saw a woman holding a box of elaborately decorated cupcakes and asked about them. That was just a delightful conversation. I wanted to do it again. I felt like, Yeah, I belong here. Sandstrom decided to study this phenomenon.
She and her Ph. The participants who talked with their barista reported feeling a stronger sense of community and an improved mood, as well as greater satisfaction with their overall coffee-buying experience. Read: How to talk to strangers. Other researchers have come to similar conclusions. On average, conversations lasted a whopping People of all personality types had a good time.
But is the other person enjoying it? So to test whether both parties were enjoying these interactions, Epley and Schroeder created another experiment. Talking to people online is not necessarily dangerous. However, it would help if you were careful of certain chat rooms and forums, especially anonymous. These online spaces that are touted as completely anonymous often attract some shady characters.
Also, remember that your comments and chats can still often be accessed by your internet service provider and law enforcement. Finding the best online chat for you will be a matter of targeting your expectations and goals for your online chatting relationships.
It would help if you first defined what you want out of the experience and then search for your best online chat from there. Focus on your interests and find forums and chat rooms centered on those things. You can also ask around your friends and see what groups, chat apps, and social media platforms they enjoy using when meeting like-minded strangers on the internet. There are quite a few anonymous chat rooms, online chat groups, random chat generators, and ways to engage in stranger chat.
You can find them on your browser, in a chat app, or various chat rooms across both mediums. Some might even argue that dating apps are a way to talk to strangers online.
You can engage in a video chat, a text chat, or a voice chat, all with just the click of a button. Talking to people online can be fun and exciting, but be cautious when you chat with strangers. With a random chat or chat with strangers, you do not initially want to give away too much personal information. Chat talk can be safe and enjoyable when you go about it casually and mindfully. With chat talk, you can still be friendly, talk to strangers online, and get to know another person but still keep the conversations light.
When you find something you share in a stranger chat, talking to people online can feel so much easier. For some, talking to people online might even feel easier than talking to people in real life. Talk to people and take advantage of random chat opportunities to learn more about your area, the people, and your interests. Keep conversations light, and try to be respectful, especially while participating in an anonymous chat. Be sure to chat with strangers with voice chat, video chat, or text chat in the same cordial way you would chat with strangers in person.
However, voice chat and video chat opportunities will likely show you that talking to people on the internet can still create a valuable connection. You can talk to people online if you wish to. Many text chat, video chat, voice chat, and chat app groups even allow you to filter your search for people in your age group, your shared interests, or your neighborhood. At first, you might be nervous to talk to people, but chat talk typically becomes more natural when you start a random chat.
If the other person initiates a stranger chat, you also have the privilege of deciding whether or not you are interested in responding. One of the main differences when you talk to strangers online vs. Like training a muscle, chat talk will likely get easier the more often you do it. Likewise, if you prefer to video chat rather than text chat or voice chat, make sure to choose a chat app that reflects those means of conversing. You can talk to strangers in a random chat if you have access to the internet or a chat app on your phone.
Chat with strangers using whatever means you prefer. Talking to people online is easier now more than ever, and how you want to stranger chat, or how you can stranger chat, is entirely up to you.
Even if you only have a keyboard, text chat is available to you. For the most part, talking to people online is relatively safe for adults. Participating in an anonymous chat can be even riskier because people tend to showcase their worst qualities in an anonymous chat.
The anonymity often gives people the sense that they can say whatever they want without putting their reputation at risk. In any chat talk with strangers, especially anonymous ones, experts generally recommended that users proceed cautiously. So, what about a nonanonymous chat room? When you talk to people in person, it is more difficult to hide portions of who they are.
But when you talk to people on the internet in a random chat, they could be portraying a completely different persona. Of course, many people will not lie and hide behind their screens, but you should remember that this is a stranger chat and treat it as such.
For that reason, some people also prefer a video chat or a voice chat over a text chat because there is an added level of sharing your identity that a screen cannot help you hide behind.
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